My creative writing journey started in October 2014 when I came across a red book called Memento by Michael McQueen. The back cover blurb read: "Memento will require you to invest two of your most valuable assets: your time and your memories. Opening the pages, I found more than 100 questions regarding my life. I was intrigued and started to fill out the pages every night before bed. I soon realised that there were many gaps in my knowledge about my family history, and by the end of the year I knew what I wanted to do. I would start writing about my life in 2015.

But how? As I had no previous creative writing experience, I googled life writing courses and enrolled in a 6-week course with the Australian Writers Centre. More courses and workshops followed over time. I became a member of Writing NSW and the Australian Society of Authors and immersed myself in the writing and publishing world over the years. I visited the Sydney Writers Festival, publisher open days, and connected with other writers and authors. I pitched my story at several Literary Speed Dating sessions and kept working with my memoir-writing group, which emerged from my initial life-writing course. Six years later, I am still part of this group for mental support, accountability, and feedback to my work.


A moment that changed my life

During the past 5 years, my manuscript slowly transformed with each draft I wrote. The final version started forming after a life-changing Kahuna massage on the 31 December 2016. I followed the heat and started real-time writing as the year 2017 unfolded. In 2018, I made another attempt to pitch my story to the publishing industry. Rejection after rejection arrived in my inbox. I started questioning if anyone would ever want to read what I was writing.

Early 2018, I discovered a new passion: ballroom dancing. In the following months I spent more time in the dance school than anywhere else and realised how much joy dancing brought into my life. My writing project receded in the background and my manuscript disappeared in the drawer. I stopped working on my memoir altogether in 2019 when my year was dominated by dance events in Australia and overseas. But I felt deep in my heart that my story would eventually get out into the world.

And sometimes, you just have to be patient and surrender to life's guidance.


The Turning Point Anthology edited by Gareth St John Thomas, Exisle Publishing, excerpt of Dare to Dance by Bettina Deda, memoir

Writing during the pandemic

The Universe sent me a sign in January 2020. It was the 4th day of the New Year and I escaped to the cinema, as Sydney suffered under 40+ degrees heat. I ended up in Little Women. In the last scene, the protagonist held her printed book in her hands, the story of her life. In that moment, I knew it was time to take my manuscript out of the drawer and start writing again.

I emailed my writing group and joined the next meeting with a new chapter about the start of my dancing journey.

In February 2020, I submitted the first chapter of my memoir to an international writing competition, hosted by Exisle Publishing, with the title: A moment that changed my life. I sent it in and forgot about it.

In March, after Covid_19 had brought the world to a standstill, the Universe sent me another sign: One morning, I found an email from a publisher inviting me to join their 3-months mentorship program to develop my manuscript further. I signed up a few days later and started to edit my manuscript with the feedback from the publisher.

Milestones in my writing journey

A year later, in February 2021, I got notified that my submission to the writing competition was picked for the anthology The Turning Point, which the publisher released in October this year. I was over the moon, as this marked a significant milestone in my writing journey.

Only a couple of weeks later, mid-October 2021, I found another email in my inbox. This time, it was from a German publisher offering me a contract to publish my memoir Dare to Dance. It was a dancer who I had met in February this year in a ballroom group class who recommended this publisher to me after he had read one of my Facebook posts about the publication in The Turning Point.

I recently signed the contract and can't wait to hold my book in my hands in 2022. My vision for Dare to Dance is to inspire women to celebrate midlife.

Here are the 5 lessons I learned on the journey to becoming a published author:

Lesson #1: Seek professional help

If you don't know where to start, enrol in a writing class (check out Writing NSW or the Australian Writers Centre) or find a writing coach or mentor. If writing is not your cup of tea at all, consider a ghostwriter.

The initial life-writing class I attended helped me to get from 0 to 75,000 words in about 10 months by committing to a daily writing habit.


Lesson #2: Establish a daily writing routine

Research found that establishing routines is the most powerful lever to achieve your goals. So a daily writing habit will propel you towards your goal much faster than you think.

The first thing I learned in the writing class was to establish a daily writing habit by setting either a word count goal (to write 500 words, for example) or a time goal (to write for half an hour a day). The point is to sit down and start writing. Sometimes, the words flow, other times they don't and you keep staring at an empty screen for half an hour. It doesn't matter. What matters is to establish the habit of writing daily.


Lesson #3: Surround yourself with like-minded people

You are the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with.

So make sure you choose these people wisely. Tap into a writing group of your genre, join a book club that reads your genre or any other group of positive people that lift you up and support you in your endeavour.


Lesson #4: Strengthen your mindset

The writing journey can be lonely and bumpy. Make sure your mindset is strong by committing to personal development on a daily basis. What I learned from one of our trainers in Arbonne (my online business in health and wellness) is that being successful in any business or project requires three things: belief, attitude, and commitment.

Believe in yourself, show up with an attitude of gratitude, and commit one hundred per cent, even when times get tough. I like this quote from Ryan Holiday's book Ego is the Enemy: Be humble in your aspirations, be gracious in your success, and resilient in your failures.


Lesson #5: Surrender to life and never give up

Sometimes, the answers to our questions come from the most unexpected places. I would never ever have thought that I find a publisher in my dancing community. But that is what happened. The morale of the story:

Quitters never win, and winners never quit!



If you would like to learn more about my creative writing projects, books, content writing and editing services, visit my website.

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